(My son Alexander, and his father, my best friend and companion, Patrick)
Without going into too much detail (I might save that for a book, wink) I will take a moment to answer the confused emails I've gotten from loyal readers asking about me and Patrick.
Yes, we're back together. We met 11 years ago, when he was 18 and I was 28. No one thought it would last. It has not always been easy. But it HAS often been fun, and beautiful, and inspired.
The reasons we've split up have varied over the years, but the splits never last too long. What DOES last is the fact that we are best friends, that he is the smartest man I've ever met, that he is a great father, that he loves me in spite of it all, that I can never, no matter how many times I've looked, find ANYONE who comes even remotely close to this man in kindness, compassion, capacity for forgiveness, flexibility, and dedication to me and Alex.
No, he's not perfect.
But he's as close to perfect as I've found, for me.
No, I'm not perfect.
But I can honestly say that now, finally, at 39, I have had the last pathetic midlife crisis. I'm done. I get it. He's a gift.
I love this man. And we are proof that true love can survive just about anything - even me, even him. And what's not to love? Six feet tall, fit as a model, genius-level funny, my biggest supporter, a runner, health-conscious in the extreme, well-read, an independent and original thinker, insanely smart, AND able to do a back-flip on the trampoline? We've been through so much. Good and bad. Really good, and really bad. And yet, here we still are. Rebecca? You were right. He's one of the good ones, and we DID end up together again.
This time, I will make sure I deserve him. Love you, lil pjrod. Thanks for putting up with me...
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Thursday, March 27, 2008
The Greatest Gifts - My Family
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Thanks for sharing. You have a beautiful family.
I am happy for you. I think sometimes we have this idea of our perfect person, since we live in a time, and a culture, that greatly values the idea that one should never settle for less. While it is true that we expect the very best for ourselves, this line of thinking suddenly becomes our own worst enemy when it comes to relationships because we hold to the notion - either consciously or subconsciously - that there is one perfect person.
We fall victim the Hollywood love stories in which a man and woman gaze deeply into each other's eyes and embrace, and know without a doubt that they were meant to be together.
So begins our journey in search of this mysterious person. As each person enters into our lives, we tend to examine them carefully through a microscope. Each flaw, each blemish we see leads us to believe there is something wrong them. So the cycle begin again for this perfect person.
I admit, the idea of finding a soul mate is appealingly romantic. Who doesn't love the notion that out of the millions of people in the world, two people were drawn together.
Although we do not always get everything we wish for, however, we must not forget that each person is the perfect person just as they are. And it seems you have.
Paz
This is the sweetest post ever!!!
A beutiful family indeed!!! (except for Patrick's baseball cap) :=) I am really happy for you and your family. Reading about the ups and downs of your marriage and the blessed outcome, has given me a ray of hope and outlook into my own. Marriage is a bumpy road and it takes alot to ride the entire road. Thanks for sharing and best wishes to you and your family!!!!!!!!!!!
and let's get patrick a Yankees hat!!!!! mela.
God Bless your family. None of us are perfect. If we keep looking for it, we will end up with nothing. You have found the ideal person to spend the rest of your life with. Enjoy it, because some people never get second chances.
Thanks, everyone! Your positive energy means a lot.
Go Red Sox! ;-)
I am really happy for you too Alisa. My hubby and I have had some ups and downs as well. Here's to appreciating what you have. I just recently finished "Make Him Look Good"(I know, I'm late) and it was fantastic! I've been reading your blog again and it's always thought-provoking. I am trying to find some chicas to put together a DGOT party! Many blessings to you.
So good to see you again, Melissa! Check the book party site; I think someone in your area has already put together a party there. You can just sign up to attend that one if you don't feel like planning something new!
The link is at the top of this blog, in the right column. Thanks!
YOU CAN'T GO WRONG WITH TWO COOL MEXICANS IN DA FAMILIA....LOL
I hope that y'all make it a great and wonderful life of success!
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Again, thanks.
You might want to update your Mothering Blog. I'm glad you're in a happy place with Patrick now...but the other blog isn't as flattering.
Yikes! Thanks. I'd practically forgotten about that blog. It has been soooo long since I updated it.
I'm going to take it down altogether for a while. I don't have the time and energy to devote to it at the moment.
Thanks for the kind words.
As a hopeless romantic, this post made me smile. And it gives me hope for my own circling relationship. :)
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